Try to ascertain what is going on. Why is your child suddenly uncooperative?
- How is he physically? Some children, especially those with the
melancholic
temperament, are greatly affected by how they actually feel.
Is he eating well?
A balanced diet?
Plenty of water?
Exercise?
- How's the social scene?
Is he lonely?
Is he perhaps feeling isolated?
If any of us (adults included) feel alone or disconnected, we mope or shut down.
Maybe it's time for a
get-together
at your house. I have solved many a problem with the words, "Would you all like to have some friends over Friday?"
If you can't think of anyone to invite or if it just wouldn't work out for some reason, take the bull by the horns and offer to head up a quick
co-op
activity.
It has to be simple because it needs to occur as soon as possible. Trip to a museum with pizza afterwards...professional ballgame...zoo with ice cream...lunch at a playground...library tour followed by a McDonald's stop...Sunday afternoon potluck with
games
Then talk to other homeschool Moms to keep the social scene active. Everyone is interested in this because wholesome activities with others is a key to a happy homeschooled child.
- How's his self-confidence?
Do we display his work?
Use stickers or rubber stamps for encouragement?
Has he had the opportunity to overhear you comment to Dad or Grandma how well he did on his spelling test? or Bible verses? setting the table? watching his little sister? feeding the dog?
Do we sincerely praise a job well done?
If the youngster is having a rough time, you may have to search really hard for a reason to compliment. But it's important to do so.
I remember saying, "Honey, you are sitting up really straight! That's great!" or "Gosh, this work is neat!" Now, all of the problems may have been wrong, but the paper was indeed very clean!
- How is his spiritual life?
Daily worship?
Family devotions?
Does he pray and have time to talk to--and listen to--God?
Is a gentle reminder in order?
Sometimes when it seemed like we were getting off track, we would designate a half hour for quiet time in our rooms. It was to be spent with our Lord.
Make sure each of your children has his Bible, Rosary, faith CD'S, whatever touches his heart.
Rather than any punishment, many times homeschool parenting discipline is more loving encouragement and watchful guidance. "Accentuate the positive!" as the saying goes.
